As I write this my son’s at Playschool. I’m sat here with a cuppa and cheeky piece of chocolate cake and actually getting time to sit and write, something I love and I’ll be honest, I feel energised. Getting time to myself isn’t something I have a lot of chance to do and yet I’m starting to realise just how important it is.
I love bedtime with my son. Not because he goes to sleep and mummy gets a break (although that is always nice!), but because I believe it’s a massively important part of the day and one that could so easily be overlooked in the rush to get the lights out. The question is are we using this time to really impact our children or is this just a quick kiss goodnight before we rush downstairs to put the TV on and our feet up.
Are we really available to our children? Do we make time for them and their passions in our busy schedules? Are we really present when we’re with them, or are we also elsewhere?
A few months back I sat in a coffee shop with my family and glanced over at four teenage boys sat together enjoying a coffee. Four friends enjoying time together, or so you’d have thought. Actually three of them sat on their phones engrossed with what they were reading and one sat there watching the others and looking around. This went on the whole 20 minutes I sat in the coffee shop.
I’ll never forget that first time we brought our son home from hospital when he was just two days old. To be honest we probably left prematurely. I felt sick and in pain the whole journey home and yet I sat in the backseat of our little car just to keep a close eye on my beautiful boy, to check he was still breathing. I’d been around children for years, so felt like motherhood would be easy, but honestly, I felt overwhelmed. If only I knew then what I know now.
Do you ever feel lacking in purpose in motherhood? Like you’re not achieving anything of worth by being at home with your children and you’re just filling time? Stay at home mums and working mums alike, we all spend time with our children and yet it can be easy to see this time as menial.
I find it fascinating that in today’s society so much emphasis is placed on career status. In fact I recently watched an interview where they stated less women are having children now than ever before. One reason they suggested was because women are taught to go get their career; achieve for themselves first and put children on the back burner.
I’m sure most parents would agree that expressing how much we love our children is of utmost importance. Letting them know that we value them and love them undoubtedly gives them a huge sense of identity. But the question perhaps isn’t so much do they know they are loved, but more do they know why they are loved.
Are you desperate for more sleep and searching for ways to encourage your baby to sleep through the night? Searching the web or bookstores you’ll find countless suggestions as to what works best. But if you don’t have time or energy to read through long articles or lengthy books, check out what worked wonders for us.
This week I’m taking part in a blog hop where myself and other bloggers get to share 10 random facts about ourselves that you may not know. It’s a been great getting to know other bloggers and reading their incredible posts so please join me in checking theirs out.
So, in no particular order, 10 things you probably didn’t know about me:
1) I’m super-duper organised and can’t stand clutter around the house. My poor husband has to deal with me tidying away every little thing he leaves out and finding its’ new home. It’s laughable now but I spent the morning after Jonas’ birth in hospital tidying his clothes into the small bedside draw as I couldn’t stand the mess… hmm, lesson learnt for next time, while the baby sleeps… sleep!
After recently sharing another bloggers post on a similar subject line which received mixed feedback, I decided to write my own post on this topic.
I believe being a good mummy has a whole lot more to do with your heart than always getting it right. However excelling in motherhood, this is something we can actually help ourselves out in by doing certain things to make life a little easier.
Just like in any job role there are always tips on how to do things in the best and most effective way, motherhood is no different. So here’s my thoughts, ten top tips to help us all thrive in motherhood:
Have you ever felt like you’ve made a massive mistake? Have you ended up feeling guilty and wishing you could go back and do things differently? Mistakes can make us feel awful, but they don’t have to. Here’s why mistakes in parenting can actually be a good thing!
Two and a half years into parenting and one thing I am quickly learning is mistakes & being a parent go hand in hand. We so desperately want to get it right for our children, but the reality is, we never will 100% of the time.
When Jonas was about 4 months old I was out with a friend who had a baby of a similar age. This was not her first and so she was more experienced. I found myself in a situation whereby she was going to handle a scenario a certain way. I had never been confronted by this particular situation before and so I just went along with her way of doing things, not wanting to seem fussy. On the way home I thought things through and decided I should have done things differently.