Are we really available to our children? Do we make time for them and their passions in our busy schedules? Are we really present when we’re with them, or are we also elsewhere?
A few months back I sat in a coffee shop with my family and glanced over at four teenage boys sat together enjoying a coffee. Four friends enjoying time together, or so you’d have thought. Actually three of them sat on their phones engrossed with what they were reading and one sat there watching the others and looking around. This went on the whole 20 minutes I sat in the coffee shop.
I’ll never forget that first time we brought our son home from hospital when he was just two days old. To be honest we probably left prematurely. I felt sick and in pain the whole journey home and yet I sat in the backseat of our little car just to keep a close eye on my beautiful boy, to check he was still breathing. I’d been around children for years, so felt like motherhood would be easy, but honestly, I felt overwhelmed. If only I knew then what I know now.
Do you ever feel lacking in purpose in motherhood? Like you’re not achieving anything of worth by being at home with your children and you’re just filling time? Stay at home mums and working mums alike, we all spend time with our children and yet it can be easy to see this time as menial.
I find it fascinating that in today’s society so much emphasis is placed on career status. In fact I recently watched an interview where they stated less women are having children now than ever before. One reason they suggested was because women are taught to go get their career; achieve for themselves first and put children on the back burner.
Are you desperate for more sleep and searching for ways to encourage your baby to sleep through the night? If you’ve read my last post and established your bedtime routine you’ll be ready to instigate the training during the night. If you missed the last post you can read it here.
Becoming a mum is quite possibly one of the biggest life changes we can go through, your time is no longer your own and there are constant demands. If you’re a believer in Jesus then I’m sure you’ll agree making time for God is important, but how do you prioritise God amongst the necessary demands of motherhood and seemingly endless chores? How do you find time when your energy is spent on your little ones?
Having been employed previously in incredibly demanding roles, I can honestly tell you that my time has never been more limited that now. I juggle constant demands of looking after my growing boy along with looking after a household of 5 and all that entails. Life has never been so busy. Time has never been so stretched. My energy levels have never been as challenged. And yet I can honestly say I spend more quality time with God, seeking Him, reading His Word & worshipping Him then ever before.
Are you fed up of feeling tired, constantly lacking in energy and in need of a lift? You’re not alone! There’s no doubt being a mummy can be exhausting. We need to get creative in maximising our energy levels. Here’s my story of how I went from exhausted to energised within a week:
I had recently felt challenged to start being careful about my diet. It’s not that I’d been overly unhealthy, but how much fruit was I eating? How many carbs was I having? I was feeling particularly tired and in need of a change so February has been a detox month for me. It’s been a month of getting on top of my lifestyle, making little changes rather than drastic diets and I’ve got to tell you, I’ve never felt better.
Here’s the changes I’ve been making that have taken me from tired and lethargic to feeling fab!
It can be overwhelming trying to navigate the mammoth list of ‘essential baby products’ on the market today and the temptation can be to purchase items before really knowing what’s needed.
Having a baby is expensive enough without wasting money on unnecessary products. We’ve purchased a fair few over the last few years, some great and some not so. Here’s my recommendations on 5 essential buys that have definitely been worth the cost!
Newborn babies love being swaddled as it reminds them of the security of being in the womb. You can swaddle with blankets but if you have a wriggler like our boy they can come unravelled easily. The Swaddler is attached with poppers and velcro, keeping them cosy all night long and giving you peace of mind that the blanket can’t get over their face.
They can be purchased from baby stores such as Mothercare however you might find Amazon has the most competitive price.
Isn’t it so easy to judge other mums? Doesn’t it sometimes seem so natural to look at how they do it, and compare. To make some sort of estimation of their parenting in a moment of observation. But don’t we all hate being on the receiving end of this?
I observed a scene recently; a mum seemed rather annoyed that her child had been hurt by another child. She then fairly loudly stated her disapproval. I looked over to see the mum of the apparent offender, sat breastfeeding a baby, another child no more than 1 in a high chair and her daughter running around.
I’m sure she heard the comment made and I wondered how she felt. She’d managed to get out with three young children in tow, an achievement in itself. Managed to keep them all calm and was apparently about to be informed of the incident. Was this helpful?
Do you ever make time to reflect? To stop and think about the year you’ve had. The pitfalls, the successes, the lessons learnt? It can be easy just to get caught up in life, the busyness, the stresses and the joys that we can just get carried along, without giving much thought to where we’ve come from or more importantly, where we’re going. But if we ever want to achieve our goals, or our dreams, then we need to make time for this.
Christmas is a great time to reflect on the previous year and look to all that’s ahead. It’s a natural stop and a natural start. I don’t know about you, but I love new starts. But the fact is, unless we make time to consider what we want to change and where we want to go, the likelihood is it won’t happen. Because generally speaking, we don’t suddenly achieve our dreams, we don’t suddenly get from point A to point B, there is a journey, there are steps.
Life is all about steps. About progressing bit by bit, and when life happens, and perhaps we lose sight of the big dream, or when it seems to distant, or too hard, or too big, we pick ourselves up and look at the next step. Not one massive resolution, just one baby step.
Are you someone who is easily fearful? Do you find yourself getting anxious about things and don’t know what to do about it? Fear is a horrible thing and something most people suffer with at some point to varying degrees, BUT, the truth is, it’s a choice!