Are your children suffering? Are you struggling? What if knowing and doing just one thing could change it all! So many people don’t realise this, but it’s incredibly powerful and it could just change your’s and your children’s lives forever!
As parents a very real part of our role is to protect our children. We hold their hands when crossing roads until they have safely learnt to do it themselves. We watch the things they have access to until they can be trusted not to put little toys in their mouths. This comes naturally, but is this enough? Are we protecting them from unseen dangers?
If you’ve had a difficult first labour or hard first few months with a newborn you will understand what I mean when I say the thought of another baby can be slightly traumatic. So how do you prepare yourself to do it again and avoid getting into a place of fear surrounding the next birth?
Isn’t it funny how things can change. How we can go from a place of fear to a place of faith without really noticing it even happening. How we can long desperately for something and it feel so distant and then suddenly find ourselves with the very thing we’ve longed for without really giving it a second thought.
We’ve spent the last week in Spain visiting my sister. For the last few years this has been our summer tradition and so every year we come I find myself naturally thinking of how things were the previous year. This year marks a biggy for us. This is our last summer holiday as a family of three before very soon becoming four. I can’t help but remember how different things were a year ago.
Alan and I had waited a long time to start trying for another baby. My first labour was traumatic in many ways and the months that followed weren’t easy. A second baby was never in question but the timing was important. Roll on three years and the timing was right, after months of trying, complications along the way, God gave me a promise – a baby by the end of 2015.
With constant demands and pressure today it’s no wonder so many of us get burnt out, stressed or exhausted. I see so many mums who are desperately trying to keep up with the demands of doing it all and yet feel overwhelmed or have lost peace – I know I’ve been there at times! But once that happens, how do we get it back again? How do we learn to live in joy and peace rather than fear?
This week I’ve been thinking a lot about promises from God. We know promises are given by God but how do we walk in the good of them? What do you do when you have your promise and yet circumstances just don’t seem to line up with what God’s said will happen? What do we do while we’re waiting and how do we strengthen our faith?
Have you ever felt like you’ve made a massive mistake? Have you ended up feeling guilty and wishing you could go back and do things differently? Mistakes can make us feel awful, but they don’t have to. Here’s why mistakes in parenting can actually be a good thing!
Two and a half years into parenting and one thing I am quickly learning is mistakes & being a parent go hand in hand. We so desperately want to get it right for our children, but the reality is, we never will 100% of the time.
When Jonas was about 4 months old I was out with a friend who had a baby of a similar age. This was not her first and so she was more experienced. I found myself in a situation whereby she was going to handle a scenario a certain way. I had never been confronted by this particular situation before and so I just went along with her way of doing things, not wanting to seem fussy. On the way home I thought things through and decided I should have done things differently.
Do you ever make time to reflect? To stop and think about the year you’ve had. The pitfalls, the successes, the lessons learnt? It can be easy just to get caught up in life, the busyness, the stresses and the joys that we can just get carried along, without giving much thought to where we’ve come from or more importantly, where we’re going. But if we ever want to achieve our goals, or our dreams, then we need to make time for this.
Christmas is a great time to reflect on the previous year and look to all that’s ahead. It’s a natural stop and a natural start. I don’t know about you, but I love new starts. But the fact is, unless we make time to consider what we want to change and where we want to go, the likelihood is it won’t happen. Because generally speaking, we don’t suddenly achieve our dreams, we don’t suddenly get from point A to point B, there is a journey, there are steps.
Life is all about steps. About progressing bit by bit, and when life happens, and perhaps we lose sight of the big dream, or when it seems to distant, or too hard, or too big, we pick ourselves up and look at the next step. Not one massive resolution, just one baby step.
Are you someone who is easily fearful? Do you find yourself getting anxious about things and don’t know what to do about it? Fear is a horrible thing and something most people suffer with at some point to varying degrees, BUT, the truth is, it’s a choice!