I am and have always been an active person. I love doing things, going out and especially love seeing people. For me a big culture shock that I wasn’t expecting was when Jonas was three weeks old and Alan went back to work after paternity leave. I had previously been in an extremely busy job whereby I was doing things all day long and had a structured routine. I suddenly found myself alone at home with no one to talk to and no routine whatsoever. I loved being a mum but I wanted structure; I needed friends going through the same stage of life to share things with and I needed to know I had something to do each day rather than just be at home alone.
I’ve often heard mums talk about feeling a lack of purpose. I think nowadays there’s such focus on career and the status that comes from this, that it can be a hard adjustment going from employment to raising a child. I gave up work when I had Jonas. I remember a conversation I had shortly afterwards with a mum I met in the park who had recently returned to work. When I told her I was a stay at home mum she asked how I coped, making me feel like I was doing something wrong, like it was crazy that I would even consider leaving my career, like the mundane tasks of being a mummy were so dull, how could I possibly not return to work.
Being a mummy, no one regularly tells you you’re doing a great job, we don’t have end of year reviews stating our performance, we don’t have pay rises, or any pay, to boost our confidence, so how do we stay motivated and passionate about our role? How do we feel encouraged when we’ve had a tough day?