When I had my son, it was incredible. Nothing can prepare you for just how much you will love this little bundle of joy. But there was something else I hadn’t prepared for. Something I hadn’t been expecting. FEAR.
There are no two people I love more than my husband and my son. But my love for my boy was a new kind of love I’d not experienced before. A fierce, protective love! I was his protector. And more than that. Every action I do, every word I say to him, was impacting him, shaping him, raising him. I’d not known this love before because I’d always been the one protected. By my parents when I was younger, and now by my husband. But this love, this was new. And with new love, comes new responsibility, and with this, came FEAR.
What was I afraid of? Afraid something might happen to him, afraid I wouldn’t be enough for him, afraid something might happen to me, afraid of making a mistake, afraid of not being perfect.
As these new feelings of fear came flooding in, I immersed myself in the only place I knew to disband them. The opposite of fear, is love. Where is perfect love found? In God. How do we know God? Through his Word; through the Bible.
Over the last two years I have immersed myself in more and more promises in the Bible. I can honestly say, whenever I have felt overwhelmed, or tired, or unsure, or discouraged, whenever I have needed help, I have gone to His word. I have read it, confessed it, prayed it, and I’ve changed. I’ve learnt to let go of fear, I’ve learnt to trust Him. I’ve found freedom.
Maybe today you need reminding, reminding of what His promises say. Because the Word is packed full of incredible promises, all of which are relevant to us, and our children, and our parenting. Maybe you need reminding, like I have done so many times, of what is true. Despite what you may feel right now, despite what you may fear, perhaps you just need reminding, of His love, and His promises. Because the more you know Him, and allow Him to reveal His promises to you, the more any fears will go!
So, to those mummy’s who are tired, ‘He gives strength to the weary‘ – Isaiah 40:29
To those mummy’s who are overwhelmed, ‘When they call to me, I will answer them‘ – Psalm 91:15
To those mummy’s who need to know you will be safe, ‘No evil shall befall you‘ – Psalm 91:10
To the mummy’s that need answers, ‘If any of you is lacking in wisdom, ask God, who gives to all generously… and it will be given you‘ – James 1:5
To those mummy’s that need to know their children will grow to honour them, ‘Her children rise up and honour her‘ – Proverbs 31:28
To the mummy’s that need to know they will do well, ‘The joys of those who… delight in the law of the Lord, meditating on it day and night. They are like trees planted along the riverbank… they prosper in all they do‘ – Psalm 1:1-3
To the mummy’s that just need to know there is hope, ‘For I hope in You, O Lord; You will answer‘ – Psalm 38:15
To the mummy’s that need to see something change, ‘The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results‘ – James 5:16
To those mummy’s who are afraid, ‘Perfect love puts fear out of our hearts‘ – 1 John 4:18
And ‘God is love‘ 1 John 4:8
If you need reminding today of what is true, if you need to see something change, if you need to let go of fear, go to Him. Go to His Word. Go to it, read it, confess it, and pray it. Because what I have learnt, what I now know, although my love for my son is new, although I protect Him, and my parenting in every way impacts my son, as I parent him and look to God, God gives me wisdom. As I parent him and need strength, God gives me strength. As I parent him and protect him and try my best, God protects me and protects my son. And His love is also fierce and also protective and while I’ll never be a perfect mummy, God will always be my perfect Father.