As I write this my son’s at Playschool. I’m sat here with a cuppa and cheeky piece of chocolate cake and actually getting time to sit and write, something I love and I’ll be honest, I feel energised. Getting time to myself isn’t something I have a lot of chance to do and yet I’m starting to realise just how important it is.
A mum: someone who always has countless hours to sit and play with her child, loves every single second of it, whilst also fitting in teaching them so they are ahead of the crowd when it comes to counting, or talking, or reading. On top of this, the house always, always looks pristine, the washing pile is always empty, and the food cupboards always stocked up! Her husband is happy, and she is contented. Sounds about right! If you’re a mum, this has probably already made you smile, because the reality is, there is always a huge list of seemingly never-ending demands!
Particularly as a stay at home mum you might think that I have countless hours to sit and play with my son, yet the reality is, even as a mum who is in theory always with my boy, there is always a constant stream of other demands, or things to do, or things taking my attention from my son.
It struck me recently just how many mums feel guilty. They have said or done something that is less than perfect and end up feeling bad. This is so sad, when being a mummy and raising young children is such a special time in our lives, we don’t want to end up carrying a constant burden of guilt. I know from my own experience this is easy to do. Why? Because when we love our children more than anything, we want the absolute best for them. We never want to show them a less than perfect love, and we want every single word, action and experience we give them to show how much we love them. Although this is a good thing, a big learning curve for me when I became a mum was realising I will never be a perfect mum or get everything right. As much as I may strive for this I will never achieve it, because I’m not perfect. Being a mum is my absolute priority but I have discovered that if I strive for perfection, I am setting myself up for failure. So now I try my best, but I accept that if I look back at the end of a day and think I could have done something a bit better, I need to let it go and just ask God for grace and wisdom to do it better tomorrow.