With constant demands and pressure today it’s no wonder so many of us get burnt out, stressed or exhausted. I see so many mums who are desperately trying to keep up with the demands of doing it all and yet feel overwhelmed or have lost peace – I know I’ve been there at times! But once that happens, how do we get it back again? How do we learn to live in joy and peace rather than fear?
Are you desperate for more sleep and searching for ways to encourage your baby to sleep through the night? Searching the web or bookstores you’ll find countless suggestions as to what works best. But if you don’t have time or energy to read through long articles or lengthy books, check out what worked wonders for us.
It can be overwhelming trying to navigate the mammoth list of ‘essential baby products’ on the market today and the temptation can be to purchase items before really knowing what’s needed.
Having a baby is expensive enough without wasting money on unnecessary products. We’ve purchased a fair few over the last few years, some great and some not so. Here’s my recommendations on 5 essential buys that have definitely been worth the cost!
Newborn babies love being swaddled as it reminds them of the security of being in the womb. You can swaddle with blankets but if you have a wriggler like our boy they can come unravelled easily. The Swaddler is attached with poppers and velcro, keeping them cosy all night long and giving you peace of mind that the blanket can’t get over their face.
They can be purchased from baby stores such as Mothercare however you might find Amazon has the most competitive price.
Have you ever felt like you’ve made a massive mistake? Have you ended up feeling guilty and wishing you could go back and do things differently? Mistakes can make us feel awful, but they don’t have to. Here’s why mistakes in parenting can actually be a good thing!
Two and a half years into parenting and one thing I am quickly learning is mistakes & being a parent go hand in hand. We so desperately want to get it right for our children, but the reality is, we never will 100% of the time.
When Jonas was about 4 months old I was out with a friend who had a baby of a similar age. This was not her first and so she was more experienced. I found myself in a situation whereby she was going to handle a scenario a certain way. I had never been confronted by this particular situation before and so I just went along with her way of doing things, not wanting to seem fussy. On the way home I thought things through and decided I should have done things differently.
Are you someone who is easily fearful? Do you find yourself getting anxious about things and don’t know what to do about it? Fear is a horrible thing and something most people suffer with at some point to varying degrees, BUT, the truth is, it’s a choice!
When I look back on those first few weeks or months of motherhood, there are a few things I wish someone had told me. So in case you haven’t heard it before, or really need to hear it now, I’ll say it for you.
To the Mummy who is worried her little baby may stop breathing throughout the night, you may check on them a few times, but know that your confidence will grow, and your fears will lessen.
To the Mummy who is concerned about how to feed her baby, desperately thinking through whether breast or bottle is the best option, whatever you decide your baby will be fine.
To the Mummy who is severely sleep deprived, things will get easier! You’ll come through it, your baby will start sleeping more, and you’ll look back on these times as a distant memory.
A mum: someone who always has countless hours to sit and play with her child, loves every single second of it, whilst also fitting in teaching them so they are ahead of the crowd when it comes to counting, or talking, or reading. On top of this, the house always, always looks pristine, the washing pile is always empty, and the food cupboards always stocked up! Her husband is happy, and she is contented. Sounds about right! If you’re a mum, this has probably already made you smile, because the reality is, there is always a huge list of seemingly never-ending demands!
Particularly as a stay at home mum you might think that I have countless hours to sit and play with my son, yet the reality is, even as a mum who is in theory always with my boy, there is always a constant stream of other demands, or things to do, or things taking my attention from my son.
I don’t think I used to fully appreciate the true value or meaning of rest before I had Jonas. I enjoyed it, but I didn’t realise how important it was, until it became such a rarity. If you’re a mum, you will probably agree that since having your gorgeous baby (or babies!) finding time to stop, or relax, or time for yourself, or even time to sleep can seem at best difficult or at worst impossible.
Do you feel like there is always something to be doing, or always something that needs cleaning, or sorting, or someone who always needs entertaining or consoling. I do! I can look around me and in a second make a huge list of things that need to be done that day, many of which I don’t even get chance to start. Particularly as a stay a home mum, I think it can be very hard to stop noticing this huge list of things to do. Our home is our place of work and so it can be hard to switch off!
This is what a normal day in our household looks like. Jonas wakes up, if I’m organised enough I will have woken up before him to shower and get myself ready. I put him on the potty (and continue to do so regularly for the rest of the day), get him dressed, we go downstairs, I make him breakfast. I wash up all the dummies and beakers he used last night. I empty the dishwasher, and then load it, whilst talking to Jonas as he has breakfast. I get him down from the table, he plays whilst I have breakfast. I quickly load the washing machine and prepare his changing bag. A neighbour might knock on the door and come in for a quick chat. We quickly rush out the door trying to get to a toddler group on time, but often running 30 minutes late. We stay there until lunch and then walk home super quickly to get back in time for Jonas to have a quick lunch and then nap. He wakes about 2 or 3pm, leaving me a couple of hours to spend some 1-1 time with him, do cleaning, hang the washing, prepare dinner and do any other chores around the house for which there always seem to be many.