I’ll never forget that first time we brought our son home from hospital when he was just two days old. To be honest we probably left prematurely. I felt sick and in pain the whole journey home and yet I sat in the backseat of our little car just to keep a close eye on my beautiful boy, to check he was still breathing. I’d been around children for years, so felt like motherhood would be easy, but honestly, I felt overwhelmed. If only I knew then what I know now.
With constant demands and pressure today it’s no wonder so many of us get burnt out, stressed or exhausted. I see so many mums who are desperately trying to keep up with the demands of doing it all and yet feel overwhelmed or have lost peace – I know I’ve been there at times! But once that happens, how do we get it back again? How do we learn to live in joy and peace rather than fear?
Are you desperate for more sleep and searching for ways to encourage your baby to sleep through the night? Searching the web or bookstores you’ll find countless suggestions as to what works best. But if you don’t have time or energy to read through long articles or lengthy books, check out what worked wonders for us.
It can be overwhelming trying to navigate the mammoth list of ‘essential baby products’ on the market today and the temptation can be to purchase items before really knowing what’s needed.
Having a baby is expensive enough without wasting money on unnecessary products. We’ve purchased a fair few over the last few years, some great and some not so. Here’s my recommendations on 5 essential buys that have definitely been worth the cost!
Newborn babies love being swaddled as it reminds them of the security of being in the womb. You can swaddle with blankets but if you have a wriggler like our boy they can come unravelled easily. The Swaddler is attached with poppers and velcro, keeping them cosy all night long and giving you peace of mind that the blanket can’t get over their face.
They can be purchased from baby stores such as Mothercare however you might find Amazon has the most competitive price.
After recently sharing another bloggers post on a similar subject line which received mixed feedback, I decided to write my own post on this topic.
I believe being a good mummy has a whole lot more to do with your heart than always getting it right. However excelling in motherhood, this is something we can actually help ourselves out in by doing certain things to make life a little easier.
Just like in any job role there are always tips on how to do things in the best and most effective way, motherhood is no different. So here’s my thoughts, ten top tips to help us all thrive in motherhood:
Isn’t it so easy to judge other mums? Doesn’t it sometimes seem so natural to look at how they do it, and compare. To make some sort of estimation of their parenting in a moment of observation. But don’t we all hate being on the receiving end of this?
I observed a scene recently; a mum seemed rather annoyed that her child had been hurt by another child. She then fairly loudly stated her disapproval. I looked over to see the mum of the apparent offender, sat breastfeeding a baby, another child no more than 1 in a high chair and her daughter running around.
I’m sure she heard the comment made and I wondered how she felt. She’d managed to get out with three young children in tow, an achievement in itself. Managed to keep them all calm and was apparently about to be informed of the incident. Was this helpful?
Being a Mummy can be expensive, and those little treats like the odd coffee in town, or the usual baby groups, or snacks for our little ones, can suddenly all mount up. If you’re like me, you might be trying to fit in lots of fun activities with your child whilst also sticking to a very tight budget. Here’s my tips on how to save those pennies:
- Allow yourself a weekly budget – it is inevitable that you will spend some money each week, so work out in advance roughly how much you need to take your children out, and then factor this into your monthly costs. Include the costs of any toddler groups, coffees in town, the odd snacks and also money for public transport if you use this.
- Allow a little extra money on top of the weekly budget – there are often those unexpected extras that we want each week such as an extra play session or a spontaneous coffee with a friend, so add a couple of pounds onto the budget to cover these. Better to be under budget than be over it!
A mum: someone who always has countless hours to sit and play with her child, loves every single second of it, whilst also fitting in teaching them so they are ahead of the crowd when it comes to counting, or talking, or reading. On top of this, the house always, always looks pristine, the washing pile is always empty, and the food cupboards always stocked up! Her husband is happy, and she is contented. Sounds about right! If you’re a mum, this has probably already made you smile, because the reality is, there is always a huge list of seemingly never-ending demands!
Particularly as a stay at home mum you might think that I have countless hours to sit and play with my son, yet the reality is, even as a mum who is in theory always with my boy, there is always a constant stream of other demands, or things to do, or things taking my attention from my son.
Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough? Like you just aren’t quite enough for your baby. Like sometimes you make mistakes? Like some days, you try so hard, but still don’t seem to get it all right.
Whether it’s giving your baby enough time, or attention, or being patient enough, or getting the discipline exactly right, with the right level of sternness but also the correct amount of love… there are some days, and probably many days, that it’s very easy to feel like I just didn’t get it right. There are some days that it is so easy to end up feeling guilty.